4/7/2024 - Is It Really Unconditional Love?

The idea of unconditional love is so attractive to so many people that it doesn't seem like they are really letting it register as to what it means. That, OR they want it for themselves but don't really want to extend it to others. I look at unconditional love the same way I look at intentions. Just like people can SAY they have good intentions, people can SAY they love you unconditionally. However, the only real determining factor of good intentions and unconditional love would be the actions that accommodate those words. 

Unconditional means not limited by conditions. Absolute. Unrestricted. Unquestionable. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Unconditional love is defined as love with no strings attached, love you give freely with no attachment to what someone does/doesn't do in return. When asked how to unconditionally love someone, some believe it involves forgiving minor offenses and mistakes.. However, when we take into account that everyone is different, raised different, might have experienced something traumatic in life that explains specific behaviors around their relationships, and that the idea of having no special terms or conditions in a relationship leaves the door wide open for harm to waltz through, unconditional love sounds good but it isn't realistic.

Even when we're talking about the love a parent has for a child. There are a shit ton of parents who claim they love their children unconditionally but they don't interact with their children over things like sexuality, religion, profession, having children out of wedlock, cohabitation, and a plethora of other things that ARE CONDITIONAL. But if you told them they don't unconditionally love their children, they'd probably be upset and tell you that you don't know what you're talking about... despite the proof being right fucking there.

It's tantamount to telling people, "I love you" but not doing anything outside of uttering that phrase that indicates you love them. Are people just supposed to believe it because you say it? Oddly, when it isn't said, people typically see that as a sign that a person doesn't really love them. Why is that? Because the accompanying action would involve DOING SOMETHING THAT INDICATES YOU ARE LOVED. 

Numerous people grew up not feeling loved, despite their parents taking care of them, while attributing it to lack of affection being shown and not hearing "I love you." Some people assume that others should just know they're loved because the parents took care of the children but that isn't automatically LOVE. It is every parent's obligation (see: duty) to provide for, raise, and look after the children they sire. Childcare is a responsibility, not automatically an act of love. Granted, you'll hear a shit ton of parents say they do it BECAUSE they love the child but those parents probably tell their kids "I love you" too.

This was more of a solid poop than a verbal shart but it’s ending abruptly so it still qualifies. The end.